I was talking to my sister last week and she shared that she bought her first car in her entire life with her own money she earned. She is 44.
I was beaming with pride. I’m familiar with the sense of wanting to contribute to the family budget but yet relying on the income of your husband or significant other when raising children.
She is extremely grateful for her husband’s financial support throughout the years. He has provided and she has never lacked anything. But there’s something about earning it myself (in this case herself) that brings about an incredible sense of accomplishment. I’m so proud of her. It was really fun to chat with her about it and celebrate with her.
My whole life I wanted to be a mom, but…
If you go back to journal entries and essays while in elementary and early education, I always desired to be a stay-at-home mom. I purposely looked at careers that allowed me to work from home so that I could fulfill that desire to be home with them and support them. That’s not for everyone, I know, and that’s ok! I honor women and their roles as a professional, a mother, a dog mom, etc.
No judgment on them and I hope you’ll do the same for me and honor my path and journey.
Bringing my first daughter home from the hospital I remember sitting in the living room feeding, changing diapers, and just holding her and I had this moment of panic “is this what I do for the rest of my life?” I wasn’t sure I wanted to be home 24-7 with no other outlets anymore.
Making Your Own Income
I started working from home pretty quickly after she was born out of necessity. My husband lost his job when our daughter was only 3 days old. I didn’t hate it and I didn’t mind it. Even though I still worked from home, I had to go to several appointments throughout the week, so he became the stay-at-home dad while I worked.
He got a job fairly quickly and I chose to continue to work. I liked the extra money. Being financially stable and having the ability to save for the future was a great feeling for me. I know we could have made it work on one income but I did get a sense of satisfaction from contributing. Buying cute clothes for our daughter (she was better dressed than I was!) and it didn’t make me feel guilty.
I didn’t think twice about going to Target. In fact, I was able to go there to find fun things to decorate the house with, buy a new handbag, or any of the other random stuff that ends up in my Target cart. Can you relate?
A Sense of Accomplishment
The point is, that I find a sense of accomplishment in contributing to our family budget. I talk to many friends regularly who wish they had more money, or especially wish they had money they earned on their own so they didn’t feel guilty when they spent money on themselves or something extra.
Additionally, I value the sense of accomplishment, and the ability to feed my mind and challenge it regularly. The rewards of business ownership go far beyond money. Check out some of my other blog posts to learn more about those rewards.
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If you too wish you had the feeling of accomplishment or the desire to contribute without sacrificing your time away from your home and/or family, there are options. What I have to offer might not be for you but I know there are many opportunities out there. You might want to consider one of them!
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